**Heartstring of A new mommy**

Having to train a new maid who is completely never touch house chores is terribly hard and always drives me up to wall. Though communication should not be a problem, in dealing with Philippine maid but we ended like having chicken and duckling chat. I can’t get what she said as her Philippine slang sounds so strong. Whatever I said, she responded by nodding her head which I assume she understand eventually, she’s not. They were so many misunderstanding happened between us. At times, I found myself should go for online military degrees in language speaking course. Else, I should use body language then….

How time really flies, it’s has come to the end of contract where I will be sending her back home in two more months. And that’s also mean I’m going to be maid-less soon.

I don’t plan to hire a new maid since existing maid hired was a helping hand for my mom who stayed with me last time. And now, I am sending both to my cousin in-law (aka Ah Ngm) for day cares, I don’t see the necessary of getting new one. After all, it’s like hiring a maid for use of others.

Also, partially because of latest regulations on Indon maid application. Imagine, you need about 8.5k for a new maid application and not to speak on the rest of regulations like having ONE off-day, passport ownership and so on. Simply with the amount of money, I rather invest on my gold coins that will grant high return for me.

I got speechless again when inccident continue to happen on my kiddos:

Inciddent 3:
On Friday nite, I’d usually do the final clean up for the kiddos before sleep. I got a big shocked when I saw a RED, SWALLEN ‘birdie’ of Xavier. For god sake, someone or something has hurt his little birdie. I asked the maid (who was at Ah Ngm’s house whole day) what the heck has happened to his birdie and she replied that it was alright earlier on. Again, I checked with my cousin sis in-law (aka babysitter), she told me it was just a small red spot and nothing has happend to him. He was neither failing down or anything heavy hit on his penis.

On Saturday, I brought him to see paed and confirmed it was being hit by something and got swallen. Luckily the injury wasn’t serious until any failure cause to his urinary. But I’m sure it’s defintely with pain…

You know, I just don’t know what else to say. For such inccident happened like that, someone no one still refuse to give me an answer, at least tell me what the heck has happened. I don’t mind if it was due to overlooked or else, all I want is just an explanation for all inccidents happened.

At times, I asked myself if I should have made a quick decision for taking care of them myself…. sighh!!!

Talking about babysitter (aka Ah Ngm), I got speechless. At very beginning, she complained that my maid likes to gossip and refused to use her but to exchange my maid with her sister in-law’s maid. Initially, it’s fine with me as thought my children are being well taken care. But these days, I noticed something different about her. She was like keeping something from me…

Inccident 1:
Xavier was having minor flu on Monday and I’ve forgotten to inform her about the medicine (which need to prescribe on morning) that I’ve brought for him. She aware of the medicine but she did not give me a ring despite she is doubt on it. When I went to pick up them at 8pm, I was told the medicine was given to Xavier at 7.30pm, in her condition of ‘NOT SURE’. I was like almost fainted the moment I heard it. I asked why don’t she just give me a call beforehand? And her reply was tried not to create any disturbance to me.

Goshhh…it’s a medicine we are talking about and a life involving … what disturbance could it be?

Inccident 2:
Xandria got a red swollen on her left eye yesterday. Being as a mommy, I think it’s proper to ask what has happen to her and what caused to the eye. She replied nothing, probably is due to heatiness. I asked why don’t she tell me when I called her in the afternoon. She told me that’s a small matter and don’t wish to cause any worry to me. I accepted on her explanation but when we got home, Xandria was like in a strength-less condition. I asked what’s wrong with her, or she is having some kind of pain on her body and so on. She pointed to her left upper eye and told me it was pain. According to her, she fell down at Ah Ngm house.

So I made a call to Ah Ngm to confirm if she really falls down and hit on her head. But the answer given was a negative. I don’t think Xandria will simply make a story on that coz when we had a fall at wet market, she told my mom that she was falling down and pointed to her back skull with a painful expression.

I understand children may fall down and hit on floor /wall or wherever but all I want just a notification for that. So that I know what to do when we got home. Was it some kind of request that beyond her ability? I don’t know… of course I appreciate on her thoughtfulness and has all my justification on my chidlren condition but that’s not what I expected from a babysitter.

Sighh…. I really got speechless and helpless!!!

Today is an unpleasant morning to me. It was raining cats and dogs and I was already late to work due to over-slept.

Before I step out to work, I was told by the maid that the washing machine has out of function. And that has really put me ‘on –fire’. I asked her how could it happen and she replied ‘don’t know’. Immediately I scolded her that she has never use all the electrical appliance properly. What’s more she is the only one who uses the machine all these while and my mom never touch on it at all. I told her I’m going to have a good talk with her after my working hour.

I’m really lost my patient to her. Never had a thing she can do it at my level of satisfaction. From house chores to take care of kiddos, none of it she has done it well. What’s more, Xandria and Xavier still fell off even she is sitting next to them. Damn… I just don’t know what heck she is doing while taking care of them.

Gosh… I found myself so stress when talking about maid stuff. Many times, I hope I’ll be able to have a short breakaway to places like Cancun All Inclusive where I can really take a good rest, enjoy myself with that luxury services provided by hotel.

When Xavier is about fully subsided from flu, Xandria on another hand has been infected with flu AGAIN. Her condition turned worst the next day where she got fever and keep sneezing endlessly. The moment she sneezed, her tear follow-up by. Poor baby!! Brought her to see paed and diagnosed with no infection. Apparently, she was infected by her little brother where both of them love to hug each other during their play time. After a day of medicine gulping, she has stop from sneezing but block nose. Both has been loosing their weight due to sickness…

I thought of sending the maid back to agent this week, somehow I delayed my action due to the 2 sickening kiddos. I asked mom to keep eyes on her and to get her to do all house chores including taking care of my dad (previously she was just helping). I’ve spared my thought that she will repeat her savage tribes again soon. If she did, I will make sure her ass will definitely out of my house. Talking about her really make my blood pressure goes up…

It’s going to be a hectic weekend soon. We have a wedding dinner on Saturday night and our house-warming party on Sunday night. Lot’s of preparing needed when something occasionally happen…

For the first time, I found myself almost lost my control and kicked her out of my sight. She is the devil I ever know and for the god damn reason, I got to keep her too. I wish I can send her back immediately. Yes, you got me. It’s my maid that drives me up to wall.

I understand being as an employer, we tend to be on ‘open one eye, close one eye’ ethic. Many times, I tried to give her chances although umpteen complaints from mom about her laziness, I forgave her even she has repeated her mistakes. I am trying my best to tolerate but it seem she is trying to put me to the limitation.

On last Friday, I was coaxing Xandria to have her noon nap. When she has fallen asleep, I thought of baking some cupcakes. I went downstairs, found she was sitting on the coach, watching telly with hands doing nothing. WTF, I paid her to sit down and watch telly. I really got pissed off. As claimed by mom, she usually did so in the afternoon but having to fold clothes the same she watched. I looked at her and asked why is she sitting here, she replied me that she is waiting the clothes to be dried up. By listening to such reason, I really want to scold her. I told calmly and asked her to do all the house chores like cleaning the fans, window grills, glass doors and so on which she need to do it once a week.

On Saturday morning, I went out for breakfast with mom. When we returned, she was cleaning at balcony. I found she was splashing the water with rubber pipe instead of using a pail. We have in fact repeating the instruction not to use rubber pipe but a pail and still she ignored. Things went worse on Sunday, she didn’t bother to what I said. I told her not to put Xavier at the edge of bed, he will fall off once he turn. She refused to do it immediately. Without a minute, Xavier makes his turn and fell off from bed. Luckily she was able to catch him. I was like having a big fright and shouted at her. I then asked to get out from my room coz I don’t want to look at stupid face and I indeed wanted to whack her on that moment.

Like I said, I can tolerate on other trivial matters but not on my two babies. As for now, I’m arranging to send her back to agent for counseling. Thought of sending her back but i just got her permit renewed. Any advise from you guys there??

As when I’m frustrating/complaining with the maid for unable to do work as requested and thinking of sending her back, I just noticed that she has been working with me for almost a year, yet still not performing.

Talking about the maid, I’ve yet to do the permit renewal for her (her permit due on early November). I called up the agent asked her on the procedures as I need to do it myself as seem I’ve lack of time for it. Damn… she only guides me on the permit renewal procedure at Immigration but not with Fomema check-up.

Though I just need to bring maid to do check-up at any clinic with Fomema logo. But end up to be told by the doc that needs to do registration at Fomema first and they will appoint a clinic nearby for the check-up.

I called-up my boss maid agent and checked with her. Here are the procedures:
1. Get ready original & photocopy of maid’s passport
2. A copy of Immigration letter of approval/ VISA
3. Medical Report
4. Registration fees payable to Fomema Sdn Bhd (Female: RM190; Male: RM180)
5. Completed on Registration Form and they will provide you the appointed clinic for check-up

And the Medical Screening process are as follows:

(visit details at Fomema website)

Total payment for renewal:
Fomema – RM190.00
Immigration – RM445.00
Runner fees – Daddy’s time and tolls