**Heartstring of A new mommy**

Xandria always keep us amused with her words. Like the other days when we were on our journey back home. I was chatting with daddy and my hands were lie on daddy shoulder (as I was sitting at the back passenger seat), Xandria with her immediate response restricted me for doing so by said this:

Xandria: 嘿，不可以! (hey….no)

Then I asked what is the reason for that restriction. She kept quiet but hugging me.

Me: Why can’t mommy put the hand on daddy’s shoulder? Why can’t daddy & mommy hugging or kissing each other? Daddy is mommy’s husband and this is to show we love each other. Can you hug/kiss daddy?
Xandria: Can.
Me: Can di-di hug/kiss daddy?
Xandria: Can
Me: Can mommy hug/kiss daddy?
Xandria: Cannot
Me: Can you hug/kiss your husband? (I mean in future)
Xandria: Can
Me: Then…. Can mommy kiss/hug your husband?
Xandria: Cannot (for her, husband is someone like daddy)

I really run out of idea to make her accepted daddy & mommy is a couple like a pair of shoes…. then I asked her:

Me: Can mommy hug/kiss di-di?
Xandria: Can.

Obviously, mommy is not allowing to hug/kiss MAN.

(more…)

What can I say …about this little fella of mine. Despite of his monster character, still he is the sweet darling of mommy and daddy. Apparently, daddy loves him more than I do. He is the King, his request has to be fulfilled and everyone in the family doted him a lots, especially my paternal grandparent. Xandria, the best jie-jie in the world also dotes on this little brother… I am indeed so proud of her.

Yesterday morning, I got upset when my access card (to enter our residential neighborhood) misplaced somewhere else after being taken by Xavier the night before. Due to new rules that vehicle without access card require using another entrance/exit. But I was at the guardhouse the moment I noticed the card wasn’t inside my car d and they were cars queuing at the back of mine. I got pissed off when I was stucked. Ended that everyone needed to reverse the car slowly in order to let me go off.

I scolded at the little guy for his misbehaved in created such inconvenience to everyone. He was in extremely quiet mood the entire journey to Ah-Ngm aka babysitter house, and with his superb pitiful, innocent look. Never he has once behaved in such quiet condition. When we reached, he was still in the same moody.

After settling all the necessity, I hugged him before I left. I reason him for his misbehaved and tell him not to repeat the same mistake. He seems understand and back to his vigorous action afterward.

As on 20 months old, he has finally understood what life is and not everything in life was like what he thought. He needs to learn in accepting the negative feedback from others as well.

Have a happy, healthy and cheerful 20 months old…Di-di

I always wonder if any others parent would encounter the same problem like I had for having a son like Xavier. He could fuss whenever or wherever he is …. And seriously, that has really put both daddy & I into a very bad experience when to bring him out. We both kind of freak-out if to bring him out.

Nowadays, I’m completely maid-less and need to send both to babysitter house by myself. We had to think of ways to keep him sit tight on the car seat for the entire journey (from my house to babysitter house about 5km). Otherwise, just a short journey can be a nightmare to all of us.

So we have to prepare these inside my car:
Food (preferable bread or biscuit), a book with pen to keep him busy with scribbling.

Some other times, when is not in his monster character, he is such a lovely, cheeky baby of daddy & mommy. The way of his calling was such a heart melting…

What else can I say but to LOVE him with all my heart….

photo taken when he was aged 1 Year Old

How time flies. The little girl of mine is into 35 months old today somewhat it was like yesterday that she was born. The memory of what we went through still fresh in my mind. I remembered how tough life would be when she was admitted to hospital due to illness. I remember having to carry her alone in the hospital, meanwhile to hold a big bundle of bag with all her stuff. I would never forget about the first question I got from others if my husband is with me that moment. I would never forget all these memories I went through with her.

Soon she will be having a big THREE birthday and we planned to have a party for her. I wish to get a party organizer for it but daddy wants a simple party instead. Yeah, he is complaining it may cost a ton if to engaged party organizer. Probably I should wait for the return from gold bars investment and see how much I spend for the party.

Happy 35 months old, my little girl. Mommy will always love you….

Xavier turned 20 months old on 20.07.2010. If you read my blog, I seldom updated about him or his growing milestone. Not because I don’t wish to, it is because I don’t know how to describe his notorious character. He has becoming a monster at home as he grows especially when he saw me around. He snatches toys from Xandria, he even bites on Xandria when both unable to have victory from each other.

he can be good more than anyone else, if he is not fuss…

I wonder, why he could well behaved at babysitter (aka Ah Ngm) house and turns into a monster the moment he reached home. His crying fit is terribly hard to handle. He cried aloud with his body lying down on the floor wherever and whenever his request NOT BEING FULFILLED. The more I tried to coax, the grimmer struggling he would be and we were the attention of everyone (if in public). You know, I am extremely HATE it …. Most of times, our outing would be returning home angrily. And worst, I think my neighbor might think I’ve been abusing my child with his pitiful, storming crying voice. Other times when he is not with his crying fit, he would be so good, to fawn with daddy & mommy, to make us laugh with his antics, to give us his warmest hug & kiss…

but…. when he started to fuss, he drives me to the wall…

Anyone of you can advise me how to handle this kind of child in public? Or simply I shouldn’t appear in front of him but using Interactive Voice Response to communicate with him.

No words can be used to describe my happiness now. Xandria finally wrote her very first letter ‘A’ by herself.

I was so worried if she would continue being rejected to learn a proper way of writing and simply scribbled on the paper. But seem like I’ve been over-worried.

Well done….Xandria!!!

Xavier as he grows, he has developed a very bad temper. He has no sense of tolerances at all and no matter how hard you try to make him understand, he simply ignores it. When his request not being fulfill, he yelled, he shouted, he cried aloud and the worst is, he would flat his body on the floor regardless of where he is.

this is him started to whine….

We usually had our dinner before we picked kiddos from babysitter. Last Friday, we decided to bring them for dinner as seem we didn’t bring them to go anywhere the entire week. At the restaurant, he refused to sit still on the high chair but want to play around with the spoon/chopstick placed on table. I rejected and he started to yell aloud. Fine… so I gave it to him in order to keep him busy & at least he would sit still for a while.

You know, it’s really hard to have a peaceful dinner if with him. After a while, he wanted the drinks daddy ordered. Then, he wanted the food we had by himself and I had to stop him by taking away the super HOT dishes. So, you can imagine how busy I am for entire dining. When we about to leave the restaurant, he refused to stand up from the high chair and started to cry really loud. Every one in the restaurant was looking at us with that expression like my son is an alien that can’t understand human language. Damn… I just hate it and it was so embarrassed. People were looking at us even we got into our car.

When I saw other kids who can really sit still and would not have such crying fit, I was extremely hoped that my boy would behave like that too. I wonder if all boys are like that or it’s my boy an extraordinary one??

Xandria is getting very good in her vocab nowadays. She is able to speak fluently, she even can correct on your mistake…

Incident 1:
Xavier unintentionally saying a word that sounds like calling the maid ‘mommy’, then she said:

Xandria: 喂，是kakak，不是mommy! (wei… it’s kakak, not mommy!)

Incident 2:
Daddy told her that he would use his car for outing to Jusco, eventually he was using mine.

Xandria: 不是你的car. 是mommy 的car. 这个daddy的car lor…*pointing to daddy car parked beside* (Not your car. It’s mommy car, this is daddy’s car)

Incident 3:
My mom called & asked if she has taken her dinner.

Granny: 萱萱吃饱了吗？
Xandria: 吃饱了，吃吃饭咯！
Granny: 哦, 出去吃饭啊。Mom overheard.
Xandria: 不是，是吃饭！
Granny: 不是吃饭,吃粥啊？
Xandria: 不是啊，是吃饭啊！

And guess what, this conversation about 吃饭 or 吃粥 last for more than 5 minutes. *slap forehead*

As and when Xavier said something that she think it’s not right, she would  correct her little brother by saying:

‘Mommy 你看，弟弟讲blah…blah…blah,不是blah, blah, blah, 是blah, blah, blah…leh!’

(she is using ‘leh’ very often nowadays, probably influenced by her cousin aka Ah Ngm’s daughter)