**Heartstring of A new mommy**

(Aunt’s Bell’s Little Cutiepie)

Remember this photo?? Oh yeah, it was taken last year when Xandria was under my mom’s care KL. Can you see the bonding between the aunt and niece?? In fact, it was more than that, my sis was like her second mother instead. Xandria cling to her more than my mom.

A year passed, the bonding between they both remains unchanged. Xandria can be very very very clingy to my sis. Whenever she is unable to find my sis, she asked like this:

Xandria: Mehh, Yi ler?? (mommy, where is Ah-Yi?)
Mommy: Working lor…
Xandria: ……….. (replied with an innocent look)

After a few minutes later, she repeated the same question about Ah-Yi’s whereabouts. Sighh… she never asked about my whereabouts when I was not with her.

Another month passed. My Xavier boy is 7 month old on 20 June. Here are some brief updates on his developments:

**Vital Stats:**
Weight: 9.4kg
Height: 70cm
Vaccination: 6 in 1 & Rotateq 2 (dose 3)
Teeth: 2 central incisors (lower) has sprouting out

**Dietary:**
~ gulping 6oz milk every 3-4 hour, night feeding getting less, once middle of night & sometimes not even once
~ starts with half solid foods of cereal
~ hardly drinks water, usually has to be forced to drink by spoon feed *headache* (wonder why most male don’t prefer to drink)

**Development:**
~ able to hold his bottle, somehow he’s rather loves to push the bottle away
~ thumbs up and sucking tight *hahaha*

~ likes to play with his tongue
~ drooling, babbling with sounds ‘puussshhh’
~ cannot be left alone, loves being entertain
~ loves to grab anything in front of him and put in his mouth.
~ knows to frown when his toys being snatched away by Xandria or mommy
~ able to half turn but aided
~ loves to be in ’standing’ position
~ able to control the direction while in ‘walker’

when he frown….

when he is happy…

when he is giggling…

oh mind, just notice my boy is growing up so fast… soon he will be in his 1yo!!! How time flies…

Backdated post…..

June 10 was my big day. No special celebration for the day as everyone is so busy. Yeah, you can imagine how busy we are until no celebration. I think it’s an excuse but when your age number is increasing, you won’t wish to blow that BIG candle on top of cake. Agree? Somehow, I still blew those BIG 3 candles very late of that day.

As for the present, it’s our new house that hubby claimed as my present. Thought we both agree in buying a house and settle down in JB but hubby insisted he bought the house because I love it and ended to be my present pulak.

Also, it’s the day my Xandria officially turn on 21 month old. Oh mind, very soon she will be in her 2nd Birthday and I can’t wait for the day to come.

Here’s an update on her development:

**Dexterity**
- She loves to climb up/down the stairs by holding the handrail.
- She able to do show me thumb-up & pointer
- She able to do running, tip-toe but not hopping or jumping
- She able to hold pencil correctly and very well too
- She addicted to finger sucking, always put her both pointer in mouth

- She able to spoon feed by her own

**Language**
- She able to recite 1-10 in English & Mandarin and A to Z by singing ABC song (with some missing alphabet too)
- She can pronoun 2 syllabus words like Apple, Elbow, Monkey, Ting-ger (twinkle)
- She able to follow the way we speak. A good sign of trying to speak in longer sentences. For eg: 弟弟哭. (Di-di is crying)

**Potty Training**
I am so proud of her because of this. It was requested by her to sit on potty whenever she wants to pee or poo. She says: ‘Nggnn, Ngnnn’ and the potty served. For now, she is diaperless during daytime and I save a lot on ‘mammypoko’ diapers. Hahaha…

**Character & Emotion**
Stubborn - when I asked her not to walk with a cup of water, she insisted until she got fall because of not concentrating.

Possessive - many times, when I carry Xavier or to play with him, she holds my hand and asked me to do this or that, sometimes squeeze in to share the joy. She tends to stare at me when I entertained Xavier first and not her.

Demanding, clingy - getting to be a whine baby as she grows. When her request not being fulfilled, she whined non-stop. And when she started to whine, nothing can please her. *Headache*

Bonding – Xavier loves her so much. He giggles when she’s playing with him. She hugs him, kiss him the way we did, although they were several times of fighting for toys.

when she is happy….

and sooooo… happy

but when she cry…

or she frown…

Because of her favourite ‘Barney’ show, I found she actually get to know many things especially on the song ‘I love u’. She hugs and kiss all of us, should thanks for the Barney show.

I LOVE YOU, Xandria!!!

It was all happened at 4 months old… Xavier starts to suck his little tiny fingers. Sometimes one finger, sometimes you may see all four fingers in his mouth.

he was in his walker…

Start being annoyed with nothing to do…

First finger in mouth….

tasting the finger….

……. (speechless)

hhhmmm…….

finally, 4 fingers in….

This little dude of mine love to suck his tiny fingers so much….

Xandria has improved so much on her language development. In fact, I should address her as ‘language expertise’ when I noticed she can understand not only the major 3 languages of English, Mandarin, Malay but also our local dialect of Cantonese and Hokkien.

Scenario 1 (in English)
During her bath time…
Mommy: Xuan, please take off your shirt and pants
Xandria: sherrrt….(trying to follow what I said). Immediately lifted up her shirt and pulled down her pant.

When she requested for drinking water…
Xandria: Meh.., sui (water)…
Mommy: No. No water for you. (because she likes to pour the water on floor)
Xandria: nggeehhh…. started to whine
Mommy: Ok, you go and sit on your stool. Mommy gives it to you
Xandria: ….. walking toward the stool in fast motion

Scenario 2 (in Malay)
When she requested to put ointment on her tummy after bath…
Xandria: booooot, booooott… a sounds of like farting because usually she farts after applying the ointment.
Kakak: Mana? Angkat baju…
Xandria: ……. Lifted up her shirt
Kakak: tidur sini (pointing to floor)
Xandria: …… lying on the floor

The maid tried to test on her Malay understanding by asking these:
Kakak: Xuan, tangan mana?
Xandria: …….lifted her hands with gesture of turning left and right
Kakak: Xuan, mulut… mana mulut?
Xandria: …. She protrudes her lip and points her mouth with her tiny finger

Scenario 3 (in Cantonese and Hokkien)
I was chatting with daddy about buying a new pair of shoe for Xandria.
Me: Daddy, we need to buy a new pair of shoes for Xandria. She has only a pair of sandal and the rest of her shoes no longer can wear.
Daddy: Ok, you go and buy online lor…
Xandria: shoe, shoe, shoe…. (went to get her shoes immediately)

I speaks Hokkien with mom. One evening, she overheard our conversation as follow:
Me: mom, bring Xuan to your room. I need to go Tesco for groceries. (I don’t wish to bring her along, that is the trick to get rid of her)
Mom: Ok. Xuan, come, we go to room and look for Ah Yi (my sister).

Xandria refused to go with my mom but clinged to me and pointing to the main door which meant for outing. When we insisted, she cried aloud.

Now that we know, no other language to speak if we intend not to let her know… Perhaps we shall consider using eye contact… hahaha!!!

I started Xavier with solid food feeding when he is at 5 month old. Yeah, it’s also because of he lost interest on milk gulping. Instead of buying those cereals on the supermarket shell, I decided to go ‘organic’. So I bought this organic cereal at an organic shop at our neighbourhood. I tasted myself and it’s taste rather good with very rich of milk.

Instead of once a day, it has becomes twice a day. This little boy of mine loves the cereal so much.

hmmm…. yummy!!!

Though it’s a weekend, I can have myself a good time for resting. Somehow, it ended to be a hectic weekend. Grocery replenish, house chores inspection and many more due to I never got extra time to do all these during weekday. Talking about house chores inspection which done by maid, I shall update on my later post. Another ‘High blood pressure’ stories to share…

On Xandria, I’ve been searching and finding a weekend program for her to spend time with. Initially, I thought of sending her to Shichida, Singapore as seem no other program that is suits to a baby at 20month old. (In fact, I thought I can spend time to shop in Singapore if I signed up at Shichida. Hahaha…) Due to very much higher fees, I turned down my plan and send her to a local center that has similar program as Shichida, a right-brain development/ brain development teaching skills.

Basically, you may know that our left-brain is controlling activities of:
· Language
· Mathematics
· LogicAnalytic
· Sequence Processing

While the right-brain controlling activities of:
· Image Visualization
· Spatial Awareness
· Imagination
· Intuitionholeness (Holistic) Processing
· High Speed Data Processing
· Creativity

Imagine, how powerful our right-brain is. For this an hour course of Parent & child program, it includes following modules:
~ Enhanced Memory Training
~ Creativity & Imaginative Training
~ Parent-child bonding
~ Image Ability Training
~ High-speed Visual Absorption Training
~ Auditory Memory Training
~ Cognitive Skills development
~ Music Appreciation Training
~ IQ & EQ development
~ Foreign/ Multi Language Stimulation

It was pretty fun. We read, we sang, we counted, we played… But when come to almost end of course, Xandria started being annoyed and asked me to carry her and leave the room. Luckily I was able to coax her to stay until end of lesson.

I hope she can easily adapt to it on the coming week lessons. Let see how…

p/s: She was so keen to play the piano instead… I shall consider to bring her for music playgroup soon.

I feel so dejected and it is always because of Xandria. I scolded and whacked her palm after I heard mom complaint to me about her misbehaviour on her little brother. She whacked on Xavier’s head with a metal spoon that she use for drinking soup/water. Xavier was cried aloud at that moment and got frightened for that. I can see a small bum above his right forehead.

Many times, I find myself act so out of control and whacked her until my hand got numb and sometimes has blue- black on my finger. Of course, Xandria was on the other hand cried aloud. I know it’s too cruel to expect a young toddler like her to comprehend on what is right to do and what is not. Somehow, she is still a baby too.

These days, I noticed Xandria clings to my sis more than I. Not only me but everyone noticed that. Sis is right, I have not been spending time with her often but to scold her on her misbehaved most of the time, especially when I stepped in house. Sighh…

At night, when I tuck her to sleep, I cannot deny that she actually own the most beautiful angelic face in the world. And that, make me feel even worst when I reckoned what I did to her.

I’m sorry Xandria. Please forgive mommy…

1,2,3… ‘konica’…

siblings love…